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[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

What does one do to make sure a relationship works?

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[chosenlightchld.livejournal.com]

... I don't think there's one thing that you can do to make sure it works that will work for all of them.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

Let me rephrase.

What usually works?

[chosenlightchld.livejournal.com]

... I'm not really sure. I mean, Devlin and I just really hang out and kiss sometimes.

But we're also a lot younger than most people in a relationship.

What's he or she like?

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

Hm... I could hang out with him more than I do right now.

Ah, well... he's really intelligent, caring, kind of obsessive about things when he first finds out about them, and really helpful. And, he's also protected me.

[chosenlightchld.livejournal.com]

Oh wow. He sure sounds like a really great guy.

What did you like to do before you two got together?

[uso]

Have you tried cooking for him and growing him flowers?

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

I've already cooked a few meals, but I haven't grown flowers yet.

[uso]

Flowers are wonderful. They make everyone happy. And it's always so romantic when couples give them to each other.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

I'll have to try that, then! Thank you so much.

[indeliblepast]

Try to understand each other, even when you don't agree. Be willing to forgive. Don't take each other for granted.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

I'll definitely keep that in mind.

And, I absolutely don't take him for granted. He's helped me out a lot.

[indeliblepast]

Good. I hope you two are happy.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

Thank you. It's a new territory for us, but we're gonna try our best.

[badluckbabe.livejournal.com]

For start? Lie. Manipulation is very important if you want to keep hold of your relationship and make sure you're happy. You have to make sure that you appeal to them long enough that they start to not only want you, but need you.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

But, wouldn't that be defeating the purpose? As far as I know, honesty is key in a relationship and not deceit.

Locked to Hoshi

[thisclinchesit]

Much as I tease you about this, if you'd like to talk over it serious-like in person, I'd be up for it.

Locked to Shoutarou

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

That would be really nice.

Want me to bring over some cookies to the agency?

Still locked!

[thisclinchesit]

You're gonna make me spoiled, you keep doing that - but I'm not gonna turn 'em down.

Still locked!

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

Ah, well!

All right, I'll be there soon. Thanks, big brother.

[morganknight]

Passion, devotion, affection, and understanding.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

I'm going to have to work on passion and affection, but I think I have devotion and understanding down.

[morganknight]

What's the most important thing in the world to this lucky guy?

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

His friends, I think.

[leafonthewind]

You've got some good advice here already but I'd like to add a couple things from a married man's perspective.

First thing - communicate. I've seen way too many relationships fail or not even get started in the first place because people didn't talk to each other about their problems. I mean, I'm not saying those talks always have to be pleasant and fun, just make sure you have them.

Second thing goes with the first thing, and that's compromise. You may think you're right, you may think you're absolutely right beyond a shadow of a gorram doubt, but you've still got to learn to bend.

[radiantcourage.livejournal.com]

I was kinda hoping for some advice from a married man, so thank you!

I'll definitely do my best to keep the line of communication open in between us. I think that since I was able to tell him about a pretty dark time in my life that I'm not as worried about sharing other stuff with him.

Yeah... I usually am willing to jump through hoops for my friends, so a boyfriend's the same way, isn't it?