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It's come to my attention that we now have these mandatory screenings? The health ones I understand, because hey, let's catch those alien parasites before they explode out of people, right? Very sound plan.

The psychological one, though, I'm not sure who I have to talk to about it, so I'm just talking about it here, since I figure they'll see it.

I'm claiming cultural...uh, exemption.

Talking about...things, and feelings, is not really a Viking thing to do. So I'm not doing it. Annnd you can't make me.

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Considering I lost my world and really messed up stuff has happened to me since I've gotten on the ship, and other people said you have to talk to psychiatrists about things that bother you and that everyone needs to, I assume I'd have to talk about whether or not I'm dealing with that okay.

I don't want to. I have people to talk about that to. If I need it. Which I don't.

And your first reaction to even the implication that you might have to talk to someone is to basically scream "I DUN WANNA" to anyone who will listen.

Your second reaction will probably be to hide in a quiet corner somewhere (you already have two or three spots picked out, don't you?) and hope that everyone forgets about you.

Your third reaction, after someone who would never forget about you finds you and drags you out of hole and brings you to my office, will be to sit on the couch and seize up like a stone. You won't speak, you'll hardly move or blink. You'll think that if you convey no outward sign of anything, that I'll never be able to read you. Though you won't, of course, realize that seizing up like that itself, coupled with your tantrum here and your subsequent hiding, speak volumes about your inability to cope with emotional stress.

You may or may not be able to keep up the silent treatment for the whole session, though I should inform you now that if you say nothing, you'll be required to come back again, and again, and again, until you decide to communicate like a relatively rational sentient being.

And, no matter how long it takes, I'll be the least frustrated of the two of us.

I think you're severely underestimating my ability to frustrate.

No, I'm not. You're not the first person who doesn't want to talk to a psychiatrist. You won't be the last. Its something I have to contend with regularly whenever people are ordered to see a psychiatrist.

There's always a few who are deathly afraid that by talking to me I'll force them to admit to feeling things that they've so desperately been trying to bury and ignore. Which, by itself, is a sure sign that you're ignoring and not dealing with something you need to deal with.

But the point of an evaluation isn't to make you talk about that specifically. If you had actually bothered to read more than a few paragraphs about my profession, you'd be aware of that. The point is to make sure you're aware that you have these issues to deal with, and that you find a healthy way to deal with them.

Protip: Ignoring those issues, whether its the Viking way or not, is not a healthy way to deal with them. Neither is throwing a public tantrum.

So, like I said, Mr. Haddock, I'll be seeing you.

It's not ignoring, it's letting them go. You don't understand. That's the problem. Stuff happens, you deal, you move on.

We don't have people like you when I'm from. Whatever it is you do for people, we have to figure that out in our own heads. And we do.

Your weird talky future way isn't better, it's just different.

If you were letting it go, you'd have no issue discussing it, because you'd have actually both dealt with it and moved beyond it. And while I'm perfectly aware that there are hundreds of different cultures, each with their own way of dealing with things, the method you have chosen in the here and now is not working for you. One doesn't need to be a psychiatrist to see that.

If that method was working, you would have let the evaluation happen, dealt with it, then moved on. Instead you're trying your damnedest to run away screaming.

So stop trying to claim "cultural exemption." It's a crap excuse and, as you noticed, won't fly with anyone. You're here. Now. And whether you had this resource or not at your home, its available to you here. Now. You're as much a part of the crew as anyone else and the laws here apply to you as much as they do anyone else, whether you like them or not.

Some stuff people can deal with and not want to talk about in depth. The loss of a loved one, something bad that happened to them. It doesn't mean they're still walking around shocked over it, or that they can't mention it, it just means they'd rather leave their feelings about it to rest.

You're deciding all this stuff without even knowing me. Not wanting to talk to some stranger about stuff is being freaked out about talking to some stranger about stuff. When I really, really need to talk to someone, I have a couple of people that I do talk to, and then I feel better. That's as good a coping method as any.

The reason I don't want to talk to you is because I figured this whole psychology thing was complete dragon dung, and some guy making assumptions about someone instead of trusting the words that come out of their mouth.

Way to prove me right.

And yet you honestly can't say my assumptions are wrong.

Feel free to respond with the usual teenager rant about how I don't know the first thing about you and blah blah blah. I'm afraid I won't be reading it, but the venting is healthy.

I'll see you soon, when someone drags you out of your corner and drops you off at your appointment.

Good day, Mr. Haddock.

You're wrong.

I'll see you soon and thoroughly enjoy wasting your time, at this point.

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